Saturday, July 31, 2010

Isn't it curious, how "ah!" moments sometimes arrive in the most unlikely, unexpected form?   Some months ago, our officeplace fax began spitting out weekly issues of something called, Shabbat Shalom Weekly.    Electronic spam? .... or not?

I'm chagrined to admit it, but for years I assumed a somewhat bigoted, (ignorant) attitude regarding others' belief systems.   I barely gave these papers a second glance before discarding.   Then one day my curiosity won out.....  whada-ya know about that?     

I'd like to share an (abbreviated) excerpt today ....

When your time on this earth is complete, what is it that you would like to leave to your children?

Most people think about transferring their wealth. However, my friend Marc Sheridan shared with me a study that unless parents transfer "5 Capitals" -Financial, Social, Human, Intellectual and Spiritual - to their children, 70% of their wealth will dissipate within 2 generations and 90% will disappear within 3 generations!

Part of the Spiritual Capital is what you have learned about life - what is truly valuable, insights into people, how to use your time. Would that be something that you would like to leave to your children? It's called an Ethical Will.

This week I share with you an Ethical Will from Joe Berman, a moving force in many organizations working to better the world. 


"All of you are familiar with a legal will, in which you dispose of all your property and designate the beneficiary of each asset. What the prime motivating values governing your life are - and how through the prism of your own experience, God's laws are enacted and validated.

"Make a commitment, and get thee a spouse - a lone person is nothing but lonely - but with a spouse, and with God's help, children can be a reality. A family is formed, and you are at the beginning of the future. A family leads to being part of a community, and within a community, you are a force and you have strength.

"Make your family home an oasis of faith, tranquillity, light and warmth so that it becomes an example worthy of emulation.

"Share - share your feelings, your joys, your sorrows, and your blessings. Everything you have is not only a result of your own efforts, but by and large, it is Providential. When trouble strikes, we all ask 'Why me?' Similarly, when you have abundance, you should ask 'Why me?' Share your earnings, your income, and your assets with your community and its institutions.

"Be alive. Learn to let yourself feel. Learn the language of emotion. Learn to savor each moment even if it does not last - in fact savor it because it does not last.

"Learn to thank God for creating emotions and feelings. Each day let one person feel comfort because of you. Each day let one person see hope because of you.

"Do not be indifferent. Indifference is a greater danger than evil, because it precedes evil and allows it to flourish.

"Learn and practice the absolute standards taught in our Torah in our relationships with others so that our society can continue to function smoothly. Do not associate with those who do not adhere to a high level of conduct.

"Communicate not only by speaking, but also by listening. Listen for silences and for pauses - for these express as much as words.

"Do it now - act now. Each day must be planned, and its results must be evaluated and measured each evening.



  1. What an interesting post! I had never heard of the 5 capitals of wealth before. And Mr. Berman's Ethical Will gives us some truths to follow. Happy Spiritual Sunday!

  2. You are so smart to read this and then share it with all of us. Thanks for the blessing. Happy weekend!


  3. What a beautiful post! I think the ethical will is every bit as important as the material one. What an awesome legacy to leave to your loved ones.

  4. What a brilliant and interesting concept is this Ethical Will! Thank you for sharing this with us.


  5. a great concept....very interesting

  6. I have to tell you one of my good friends, who happens to be a Mr. Mom is Jewish and he is one of the greatest friends ever. He will send me things all the time - I use them a lot in my own blog. It's interesting.

    So how are you doing today? Thanks for sharing that good message.


  7. What a interesting concept. Thank you for sharing this with us.

  8. This is a good idea.Thank-you for sharing them.

  9. Wow!This is good "stuff." Providence, I think brought this into your office for you to share today. I have felt the way you used to feel about beliefs different than mine. You know people from the Church of Christ. LOL But for many years I have accepted TRUTH wherever I found it. Thanks for this good post.

  10. What wonderful thoughts here...I like this. Thanks for sharing it with us today...God bless.

  11. Thanks for stopping by Buttercup's. Any friend of Sandie is a friend of mine. Please come by and visit often.

  12. I have an award for you on my blog! sandie

  13. Excellent advice. Thank you for sharing.

  14. I didn't know about an ethical will! Very important, maybe even more so, to pass on to the next generation.


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