As first and second-graders, Kathy and I were inseparable, bound by our passion for horses, donkeys, Roy Rogers and Dale. Maybe on account we were both 'only' children, I remember begging our mothers for 'twin' outfits.
When her dad accepted a transfer off the Hill I don't suppose either of us dreamed it would be 50+ years before we'd reconnect - by chance - on social media! Today, K lives in California, close enough to visit... but we've not done so. Too much water under that particular bridge. (But dang, if she didn't get that horse!)
|ca. 2009 - together again!|
Over the years of course I've developed some abiding friendships with other
Looking back, I suspect Liz became my 'bestie' because we were two of the biggest losers at LAHS!
I tolerated her exhibitionism and bossiness -- but breathed a sigh of relief when, after graduation, we went our separate ways. (These days when she starts provoking arguments on FB, I can just turn her off!)
It's curious that I still refer to Debbie-in-Florida as a 'best friend' ... when we've not had an opportunity to see each other more than a once or twice in the last 12 years. We honor our history.
Honestly, I don't know if I need a living, breathing Best Friend nearby. Sure, I fantasize about girls' getaways and similar pleasant interludes - but right now I think my closest friends are my fellow citizens of Blogland. I'm continually astonished - and humbled - at the level of camaraderie and sincerity which exists!
I was thinking the other day, it's nice that blogging affords us the opportunity to 'filter' those with whom we want to hang out. Sort of goes hand-in-glove with what Tony Robbins says about "If/Then" rules. You know the ones:
"IF you really love me, THEN you'd ...." or, "IF you're my friend, THEN you wouldn't ....."
For instance? Some years ago I came really close to UNfriending someone because she admitted to having cast her vote for a person I disliked.
Another time, I was aghast because someone I believed I KNEW well, spoke fondly of Angelina Jolie. It doesn't seem that long ago, does it, that the "Brad/Jennifer/Angelina brou-ha-ha" was was the feature story on every newsstand? (Did anyone else ever draw a mental parallel to Eddie/Debbie/Liz?)
Aw, mother always said it would be a dull life if everyone liked the same thing.
(Then, she'd reverse herself by refusing to attend a church that wasn't of the Missouri synod. LOL.)
Seriously, I suspect we all crave a certain amount of conformity -- whether it's in our liturgy, our music, the books we read ... even those we don't like together! But I think I'm going to drop the 'best' from my vocabulary. It almost sounds exclusive. (To me, anyway.)
Before saying 'goodnight', I want to share a nugget from friend Jack over at Ship's Log -
"... If you are opposite of me, I certainly do not want to hurt you. I like you." Ya!
Please take good care of your very special selves!
Hugs from Phoenix,